How Clarity Leads to Having the Life You Want Lily Tomlin said, “I always wanted to be somebody, but now I realize I should have been more specific.” Lily was of course being funny. But, she’s right.
I’m often asked by women, “How do I get from where and who I am, to where and whom I really want to be?” My first reply is to ask them what they truly want. Many, many times they don’t really know. All they know for certain is they want something else, something more, something true and purpose-filled. Coming up with a concise true response to that question (what do you really want?) seems simple until someone asks you, or until you ask yourself. Try it.
Here’s what I know. Having a true and clear answer is very empowering. It’s the beginning of everything. The greatest starting point in living an empowered life is having clarity around what you want. Your ability to develop a clear and detailed picture of what you want is paramount in embarking on the journey to getting there and creating the life you want.
Here are three steps towards clarity.
Your feelings are your guide – by allowing your feelings to be your barometer for clarity, you will start to become certain about how you want to feel when you are doing what you really want to do. Listen to your own signals as to what makes you feel good and what doesn’t. Your feelings also allow you to check in with how the journey is going and make course corrections along the way. When you are doing and being what makes you feel good, take note. Sometimes our feelings are clouded by conditions that we feel are out of our control like depression, hormones, relationships, etc. But the truth is you have the power over how you choose to take care of yourself as you deal with these conditions. The internal indicators are your feelings. Listen to them.
“Let’s Pretend” – imagine that you’re already living the life you want. Now, you’re being interviewed for a top publication or news program and the interviewer asks you how got to where you are, who supported and who influenced you. As you give them your detailed recount, remember what it was like as a kid to pretend and step inside of that make-believe person you were pretending to be. Be animated! It’s “Let’s Pretend” so have some fun.
Visualize Your Life – visualizing what you want your life to truly look like is a most powerful tool in clarity. Shakti Gawain in her amazing book, Creative Visualization, said “We always attract into our lives whatever we think about most, believe most strongly, expect on the deepest level and imagine most vividly…Just put forth a clear enough request, and everything your heart truly desires must come to you.” This book is a must-read for those wanting to live an empowered life. It is one of my secret weapons; not only in creating the life I live, but also in the lives my clients are creating for themselves as well. So, as you visualize your most desired life, what are you accomplishing? Where do you live? What does a typical day look and feel like?
What’s next? Now that you’ve checked in with your feelings, pretended to tell someone your journey and visualized it in living color, you just need to take one first step. Just one! Ask yourself: If I could take one step in the direction of my fully empowered life what would it look like? Take that step! Make that call! Ask that favor! It might seem scary at first but it will begin to move you in the direction towards your clarity and your vision for your life.
Once you begin to listen to your feelings, follow them towards making changes, imagine you are already there, visualize exactly what you want and take just one step forward. You will not only have greater clarity you will be empowered to create the life you truly desire.
“A lack of clarity could put the brakes on any journey to success.” – S. Maraboli
So, take your foot off the brakes, get clear and move steadily toward your dreams!
BIO: Andrea Quinn is a Certified Life Coach, Motivational Speaker and Author based in Los Angeles. She is known as an “Empowerment Activist” for women and has a reputation as a powerful advisor to many in the entertainment industry. Her unique and natural gift of sharing her wisdom offers an original perspective that isn’t based on ego or hype, but in real world experience and she delivers!
She has developed a curriculum called the ”Quinn Essentials”, which is a program used by many individuals as well as companies to expand their businesses, inspire communication within groups and empower people to live their best lives. Andrea facilitates women’s groups in Los Angeles where she teaches her tools to hundreds of women and is successful at guiding them to “Accomplish” their dreams.
Andrea is finishing her first book” The Quinn Essentials – 9 tools to Accomplish ANYTHING for Women.” She is also expanding her women’s groups in 2017 to San Francisco, San Diego, Dallas, Austin, and New York. Motivational speaking is also a passion for her and she is invited to speak regularly at many corporate events and has a once a month empowerment lecture series in Hollywood for men and women. While she has a presence in many of the Studios, Networks and Agencies in Hollywood she has also advised on Wall Street, the Silicon Valley, the Pentagon, and most recently in London’s powerful Music Industry. Seeing people (especially women) succeed by “Accomplishing” their dreams is her biggest dream come true.