#MyDream - MOTHERHOOD | UNDERSTOOD for Mogul, Inc.

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My dream is that with motherhood comes only empathy and connection, not judgment and shame. My dream is that all moms feel empowered to ask for help, receive it and realize that doing so doesn't make them failures. My dream is that all moms realize that taking care of themselves and their needs isn't selfish, but necessary. My dream is that all moms feel safe enough to be honest about their lives, even the scary parts. My dream is that all moms have access to affordable care for mental health issues such as postpartum depression and anxiety. My dream is that no mom ever feels alone as she struggles. My dream is that all moms recognize motherhood is not one-size-fits-all and no two journeys are the same. My dream is that all moms support each other's choices and embrace each other's differenes. My dream is that all moms lift one another up because they understand that we are all in this together.

Q&A with Tammi Leader Fuller, Founder & CEO of Campowerment

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Meet Tammi Leader Fuller, Founder and CEO (Chief Empowerment Officer) of Campowerment, and the woman, who, I swear, changed my life in just 72 hours. She would argue that she just built the (Campowerment) door and I walked through it, but even when I walked out the door back to my everyday reality, she still had and continues to have my back. I just got back from my second Campowerment retreat and I am going back for more in November. What can I say...I'm addicted. Trust me when I say you will be too! Read on as Tammi talks Campowerment, starting over, and why every woman needs this magical weekend in their lives. Pre-Campowerment Tammi A guilt-ridden, stressed out single mom, wondering when and why I signed up for this insane web of a life I had spun for myself.

The Beginnings of Campowerment I am who I am today because of summer camp, my happy place. In my twenties, after I outgrew childhood camp, I became a Club Med counselor (a G.O.) for grown ups, probably because I am obsessed with the concept of playtime and the joy it brings to life. I think I became a TV Producer because I was a spirited camp girl (truth: I majored in Journalism cuz there was no school on Fridays!), and meeting interesting people and telling their stories was a very cool way to make a living.

In 2005, Harper Collins published a book I co-wrote with five other overworked professional women about how having it all is not having it all, at all. We called ourselves The Miami Bombshells because of all the bombshells we dropped when we first came together as strangers over wine and chocolate, struggling to juggle all that life was throwing at us. When we launched our book on national TV (what a party that was, as all our friends gathered outside in the rain, holding giant signs of our book cover!), it resonated because we were strangers with no past, coming together, without judgement or any history, to support and elevate each other. Together, we came to understand that we’re all the same, carrying those proverbial rocks in our backpacks. We learned, together, that burdens just aren’t as heavy when friends help you lift. After appearing on some TV shows, our website crashed from all the requests from women who wanted to connect with their own tribes of women, just as we did. 

And Camp Was Born That’s how our first, very primitive camp was born. 17 Camp Bombshells later, The Today Show called it one of America’s best girlfriend getaways, but after a few years, we shut it down because BOTH my sisters and one of my Bombshell sisters got breast cancer. Everyone got better (knock wood) and then, the Producers of Menopause the Musical wrote a fabulously relate-able original play based on our book, that we were sure was going to Broadway (LOL). It closed in 2009 after 6 weeks at a regional theater in Miami, and it was time to go back to TV so my kids could eat. I took a big job in L.A. to help create a TV show about changing your life, and began to notice how many fabulous experts I had collected in all my years in TV. Doctors, therapists, trailblazers, authors, and thought leaders with the power to help people shift and let go of all that was holding them back. And that’s when I knew, deep in my soul, it was time to marry this camp idea with the empowering of women who had impressed and inspired me over my 34-year career. 

Pulling It Off In 2012, I went to the Burning Man festival in the Nevada desert to figure out how I was gonna pull that off and voila! In my head, Campowerment was born. I wasn’t sure how I was gonna pull it off, but I just did what I knew how to do, treated it as a live TV production, and was blown away by the response. I didn’t realize how badly women need a place to unplug, out in nature, and now,17 camps and more than 3000 happy campers later, we’re off and running, helping women reignite their lives in a hilariously fun, empowering kinda way. At camp. Go figure.

The C.E.O. (Chief Empowerment Officer) It means I run the company as its CEO-but the other side of my job is to help empower others to recognize their own gifts, figure out what they’re supposed to be doing with this life and to leap without a net into the future they’re dreaming about right now. When that clicks for people, magic happens.

A Family Business No better people to work with than those with my blood running through them. Building this from scratch was way more fun with my mom and daughters by my side, and every single day, we’re learning something new about ourselves and each other, and what women really want and need. We all bring a different kind of talent to the table, but the best thing we can do some days is try and stay out of each other’s lanes. We have 52 years between us from top to bottom but I am amazed by how easily we communicate and relate to each other. Because we’re in this for the right reasons, to pay it forward, I think that’s why it’s working.

Why Camp Why not?  When I went looking for a camp to go to with my girlfriends, it didn’t exist. That’s all I had to hear…

Why Women Why not? We are the ones who are struggling to juggle all that life throws at us today. It’s all coming at us so fast, and our needs seem to always get pushed to the bottom of our to do lists. In the TV world, I had a lot of women in my ear complaining about not being all that happy with the choices they’ve made that landed them there. And so many of them seemed to be searching for their life purpose. So it was only natural to start with women only. We do run co-ed corporate and group custom programs, and we do have a lot of men asking when they get to go to camp. Men often write us in despair, asking for tools to help them deal with newly empowered partners! Patience, we tell them. It’s on the drawing board.

The Typical Camper They are 21 to 80 years old, and they come from all over the globe. We don’t know what they do for a living because they’re not allowed to share that for the first 24 hours. After the first day, no one really cares anyway. You’ve got to be a pretty cool chick to come to Campowerment and take a complete leap of faith, because we don’t leak the schedule to anyone until just before the bugle blows. This is a challenge for those alpha women who are used to being in control all the time, but they quickly learn that it’s only by making themselves uncomfortable that growth happens. And so they have no choice but to trust us and let go. And that’s when their journey begins.

What Women Come Looking For Sometimes they come looking for the lighthearted little girl they used to know. Sometimes they come just to laugh, play, bond and disconnect to reconnect with themselves and a sisterhood of women in the same boat, paddling upstream. Sometimes they come to get over or learn how to release something that’s been holding them back. Sometimes they come to bring in a new perspective that had not been available to them before. We like to say you don’t get what you want at Campowerment, you get what you need, though I think it’s fair to say that most of us have no idea what that is when we get to camp!

What They Leave With Their rightfully earned spot in a very cool tribe of fabulous women. Their mojo. Their confidence. A deep connection to themselves. A plan. And some forever friends.

Choosing the Experts Every expert has been hand-picked by me. She has to be someone who I’ve learned from—with some kind of a pedigree—someone whose insight blew me away and helped me change something in my life that wasn’t working. We have nearly 100 experts in our arsenal, and a huge waiting list of other gifted professionals who want in. I’m always meeting with new experts, changing up the program. No two camps are ever the same.

When People Think You’re Crazy Camp is not for everyone. We sleep in cabins together and that can get a little uncomfortable. But that’s when growth happens. It makes me sad to hear women say they won’t come because they don’t want to “rough it” or dig up what they’ve so perfectly covered up in their own lives. Knowledge is power, and our program doesn’t tear people down. It builds them up and gives them tools to help them make their lives better, not worse. When people say they are not camp people, I show them our video. If they still don’t get it, I drop it. They’re just not our people.

On Women Making Excuses Bottom line? Women don’t believe they deserve this. They don’t want to spend the money on themselves (funny, by the second day, so many tell us we’re not charging enough for the experience) or they think their families or their jobs or their partners won’t be able to manage without them for 3.5 days. The week before camp, we always have a record number of requests from campers who want to cancel for whatever reason they can come up with. That’s why we had to put our strict cancellation policy in place. If we allowed it, most women would likely surrender to the needs of others before putting their own first.

A Wonderful Mom and a Successful Entrepreneur Thank you!  I am finally drinking my own Kool Aid and think I may have finally figured out this work-life balance thing. By making time for me every single day, in between the demands of family and work, I am a better mom and boss. I have a crazy ridiculous amount of energy, which I think you need if you’re gonna blow up your life to follow your dream in your mid-fifties. But make no mistake here. I’m living the dream and count my blessings every single day. For real.  Even as my college friends are retiring and I’m working way too many hours a day, every day, to help women like me get happy again.

On The Future of Campowerment If I told you I’d have to pulverize you!

We All Need a Campowerment Weekend Campowerment is the only place I have ever been to, where everyone is FOR each other. It’s mind boggling actually. There is not a woman on this planet who wouldn’t benefit from a weekend like this. Every one of us knows someone who needs this. Please, please, please pay it forward and share our video on your social media platforms. The more women we can get to come play with us and re-ignite their lives, the happier we will all be.

VIDEO: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sAWxH14rw6Y

 

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BIO: Tammi Leader Fuller is an Emmy-Award winning TV Producer who walked out of the Control Room and into the woods, to help people disconnect to reconnect, find their purpose, and their Tribe.  Tammi’s the CEO of Campowerment: sleepaway camp for grown ups, and the power behind a movement that’s equipping women to transform their own lives through the power of play, blended with insight from America’s top Experts. Tammi spent three decades covering network news for NBC News and the Today Show, CBS News, EXTRA, PBS and America’s Most Wanted. In 2005, Tammi partnered with five accomplished South Florida business women — known together as the “Miami Bombshells” — to co-author “Dish and Tell” (Harper Collins), a book of anecdotes to help women understand they are not alone in their struggle to juggle all life throws their way. Tammi’s now running Campowerment with her 80 year old College Writing professor mom and her 28 year old Marketing Exec daughter by her side, giving women of all ages an intergenerational platform to grow and learn and share some of life’s universal lessons, through hilarious laughter and coaching and a roadmap to help them elevate their lives.Three years, 16 weekend retreats and 3000 happy campers later, Campowerment’s getting shout outs from Oprah, MORE, Forbes and Parade Magazines, the TODAY Show, The Hollywood Reporter, LA Times, Miami Herald, and the Philadelphia Inquirer, as the place where adults go to learn how to live better, and figure out what they’re supposed to be doing with their lives.

Campowerment - Round Two - Also Known As: GET YOUR ASS TO CAMP!

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I wasn’t going to write about my weekend at Campowerment this time around. Not because I didn’t have another magical, transformative weekend with the most unbelievable women, but because I want you to hear about the Campowerment movement and why every woman needs some camp in her life, from the founder herself. On Friday I will be posting a Q&A with the rockstar behind camp, Tammi Leader Fuller. You do not want to miss it! But I have to write about something that happened to me on the last day of camp, just minutes before I got in the van and headed to Newark airport to return home to my real life. We rarely ever know what kind of impact we make on another person and it’s not something we tend to think about. Of course we think about how others touched our lives, but what if you could take a moment to hear from others about the effect you had on them? At the end of camp, you are given this opportunity, but I won’t spoil the details of how, in case you decide to go experience it for yourself. And you should definitely go experience it for yourself.

During my moment, another camper, a woman who I swear is my soul sister and someone I have known my whole life (I’ve literally now known her for less than a week) told me that I make her want to be a mom, something she really hasn’t felt strongly about ever. Cue tears and all the feels. Let me repeat that. I make her want to be a mom. This woman right here—this mommy—your medicated mommy wants to make someone else be a mom. I consider myself to be a pretty confident woman (thank you Campowerment-the first time around), but me? Make someone else want to be a mom? Really? Why?

And do you know why I make her want to be a mom? Because my honesty and attitude and fearlessness gives her the courage to be herself. Because I’m too busy being me, the mom that I am, postpartum depression survivor, medicated and all, to get caught up in the crazy bullshit that has become today's culture of motherhood. I found myself in all kinds of ways this past weekend. I rediscovered my purpose. I made lifelong friends. I listened and learned from so many beautiful, strong women. I danced my ass off, sang karaoke, showed off my killer hula hoop skills, and found my inner teenager. But at the end of camp, in less than one minute, my new best friend left this writer at a loss for words and turned the impact I had on her right back around on me. The only way I know how to pay this forward and show my eternal gratitude for finding and joining this tribe of women is to now share it with all of you and hope that you will give yourself this amazing gift of camp.

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So let me ask you:

Do you miss that playful girl you used to be?

Is she in there somewhere but you don’t know how to find her?

Can you even remember the last time you saw her?

Did you get lost somewhere along the way via the path of marriage, motherhood, career, and responsibilities?

Do you need to let go?

Do you want to experience what it’s like to live in a judgement and drama-free zone? You know, the way the world should be?

Do you want to feel what it's like to live in a place where women only build each other up?

Do you want to be accepted for who you really are, not what you do? 

Do you want to feed your soul, enrich your life, and learn some new cool shit?

Do you need to rediscover your purpose?

Do you have no idea what your purpose is?

Do you put everyone’s needs before your own?

Are you dying to put yourself first, but worried what others will think?

Do you want to be your authentic self and not give a fuck if others don’t get you?

Do you want to learn how to give even less fucks about that?

Do you want to find your inner strength and beauty (because I promise you it’s in there!)?

Do you want to realize that making it all about you is the only way to make it in this life?

Do you just need a little more of the positive and a little less of the negative?

Are you looking for your people? For connection?

Do you just need to have more fun? 

Are you happy and fulfilled in your life but you want to be even happier and more fulfilled?

If you answered yes to even just one of these questions, you need to get your ass to Campowerment. Get empowered. Be inspired. Come play. Do something for yourself. IT’S MORE THAN OKAY TO DO SOMETHING FOR YOURSELF. Yes, this is me telling you to put yourself first in shouty caps! It doesn’t make you selfish. It makes you brave. It makes you strong. It makes you vulnerable and beautiful. For all the people who say otherwise, fuck them! And when you return home from your first Campowerment weekend, you will be able to say exactly that.

"Empowerment Activist" Andrea Quinn takes over my blog this week! (Today's Topic: Having the Life You Want)

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How Clarity Leads to Having the Life You Want Lily Tomlin said, “I always wanted to be somebody, but now I realize I should have been more specific.” Lily was of course being funny. But, she’s right.

I’m often asked by women, “How do I get from where and who I am, to where and whom I really want to be?” My first reply is to ask them what they truly want. Many, many times they don’t really know. All they know for certain is they want something else, something more, something true and purpose-filled. Coming up with a concise true response to that question (what do you really want?) seems simple until someone asks you, or until you ask yourself. Try it.

Here’s what I know. Having a true and clear answer is very empowering. It’s the beginning of everything. The greatest starting point in living an empowered life is having clarity around what you want. Your ability to develop a clear and detailed picture of what you want is paramount in embarking on the journey to getting there and creating the life you want.

Here are three steps towards clarity.

Your feelings are your guide – by allowing your feelings to be your barometer for clarity, you will start to become certain about how you want to feel when you are doing what you really want to do. Listen to your own signals as to what makes you feel good and what doesn’t. Your feelings also allow you to check in with how the journey is going and make course corrections along the way. When you are doing and being what makes you feel good, take note. Sometimes our feelings are clouded by conditions that we feel are out of our control like depression, hormones, relationships, etc. But the truth is you have the power over how you choose to take care of yourself as you deal with these conditions. The internal indicators are your feelings. Listen to them.

“Let’s Pretend” – imagine that you’re already living the life you want. Now, you’re being interviewed for a top publication or news program and the interviewer asks you how got to where you are, who supported and who influenced you. As you give them your detailed recount, remember what it was like as a kid to pretend and step inside of that make-believe person you were pretending to be. Be animated! It’s “Let’s Pretend” so have some fun.

Visualize Your Life – visualizing what you want your life to truly look like is a most powerful tool in clarity. Shakti Gawain in her amazing book, Creative Visualization, said “We always attract into our lives whatever we think about most, believe most strongly, expect on the deepest level and imagine most vividly…Just put forth a clear enough request, and everything your heart truly desires must come to you.”  This book is a must-read for those wanting to live an empowered life. It is one of my secret weapons; not only in creating the life I live, but also in the lives my clients are creating for themselves as well. So, as you visualize your most desired life, what are you accomplishing? Where do you live? What does a typical day look and feel like?

What’s next? Now that you’ve checked in with your feelings, pretended to tell someone your journey and visualized it in living color, you just need to take one first step. Just one! Ask yourself: If I could take one step in the direction of my fully empowered life what would it look like? Take that step! Make that call! Ask that favor! It might seem scary at first but it will begin to move you in the direction towards your clarity and your vision for your life.

Once you begin to listen to your feelings, follow them towards making changes, imagine you are already there, visualize exactly what you want and take just one step forward. You will not only have greater clarity you will be empowered to create the life you truly desire.

“A lack of clarity could put the brakes on any journey to success.” – S. Maraboli

So, take your foot off the brakes, get clear and move steadily toward your dreams!

 

JennKLPhotography-4171_edit_CROPBIO: Andrea Quinn is a Certified Life Coach, Motivational Speaker and Author based in Los Angeles.  She is known as an “Empowerment Activist” for women and has a reputation as a powerful advisor to many in the entertainment industry. Her unique and natural gift of sharing her wisdom offers an original perspective that isn’t based on ego or hype, but in real world experience and she delivers!

She has developed a curriculum called the ”Quinn Essentials”, which is a program used by many individuals as well as companies to expand their businesses, inspire communication within groups and empower people to live their best lives. Andrea facilitates women’s groups in Los Angeles where she teaches her tools to hundreds of women and is successful at guiding them to “Accomplish” their dreams.

Andrea is finishing her first book” The Quinn Essentials – 9 tools to Accomplish ANYTHING for Women.” She is also expanding her women’s groups in 2017 to San Francisco, San Diego, Dallas, Austin, and New York. Motivational speaking is also a passion for her and she is invited to speak regularly at many corporate events and has a once a month empowerment lecture series in Hollywood for men and women. While she has a presence in many of the Studios, Networks and Agencies in Hollywood she has also advised on Wall Street, the Silicon Valley, the Pentagon, and most recently in London’s powerful Music Industry. Seeing people (especially women) succeed by “Accomplishing” their dreams is her biggest dream come true.

"Empowerment Activist" Andrea Quinn takes over my blog this week! (Today's topic: Your Attitude)

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It’s All About Your Attitude Yes Ladies, attitude is everything! You’ve likely have heard the phrase “fake it till you make it,” and yes, at times it can be a good strategy in business or the start of a great marketing campaign while you’re building and establishing your brand. However, “faking it” is not the greatest idea when it comes to your own personal attitudes. Just the opposite, authenticity, is the foundation for an effective attitude.

Your attitude about your life determines the quality of it. That is a fact.

Numerous health psychology studies show that the quality of life is very often the result of one’s attitude. It’s been six decades since social psychologist Gordon Allport broke ground by saying that attitudes are “probably the most distinctive and indispensable concept in contemporary social psychology.”

Yes, they are that important!

Allport described attitude and change in attitude as a cognitive process. The way I see it, this simply means you are in control of your attitudes; they don’t control you. Knowing this is very empowering.

But, the shift in attitude doesn’t just happen when someone suggests you need to get a positive attitude. This is where the “fake it till you make it” scenario comes into play. I mean seriously. How are you supposed to put a coat of yellow paint on things to make them better? I am here to tell you that it doesn’t work (and I think you already know this).

See, I don’t believe that there are positive or negative women. Nor do I believe there are positive or negative attitudes.

What I do believe is that there are empowered or disempowered women who have positive or negative experiences based on their respective attitudes. It’s as simple as that.

Empowered women have attitudes that are optimist, constructive, encouraging and helpful, leading to positive experiences. Disempowered women have pessimistic, destructive, selfish and often depressing attitudes that lead to negative experiences.

And, here’s the thing. Again, it comes down to choice. The thing that determines your attitude in any given moment is how empowered or disempowered you allow yourself to be. The choice of empowerment and the choice in attitude are linked and walk side by side.

It’s an inside job where your assignment is to determine how to empower yourself in a situation (and that doesn’t mean be bitchy or angry!).

True power comes from the ability to do things differently. These are just a few tips to start you on your way to a new attitude.

  1. Realize that attitude is a choice and you can make choices that feel good.
  2. Remove people or situations that make you feel disempowered or bad.
  3. Read or watch inspirational material.
  4. Look for role models who embody attitudes you admire.
  5. Be kind to yourself in the process

Remember; stop “trying” to be positive! Look for where you are the most empowered, make your choices from there and recognize that you are on your way to a new attitude.

JennKLPhotography-4171_edit_CROPBIO: Andrea Quinn is a Certified Life Coach, Motivational Speaker and Author based in Los Angeles.  She is known as an “Empowerment Activist” for women and has a reputation as a powerful advisor to many in the entertainment industry. Her unique and natural gift of sharing her wisdom offers an original perspective that isn’t based on ego or hype, but in real world experience and she delivers!

She has developed a curriculum called the ”Quinn Essentials”, which is a program used by many individuals as well as companies to expand their businesses, inspire communication within groups and empower people to live their best lives. Andrea facilitates women’s groups in Los Angeles where she teaches her tools to hundreds of women and is successful at guiding them to “Accomplish” their dreams.

Andrea is finishing her first book” The Quinn Essentials – 9 tools to Accomplish ANYTHING for Women.” She is also expanding her women’s groups in 2017 to San Francisco, San Diego, Dallas, Austin, and New York. Motivational speaking is also a passion for her and she is invited to speak regularly at many corporate events and has a once a month empowerment lecture series in Hollywood for men and women. While she has a presence in many of the Studios, Networks and Agencies in Hollywood she has also advised on Wall Street, the Silicon Valley, the Pentagon, and most recently in London’s powerful Music Industry. Seeing people (especially women) succeed by “Accomplishing” their dreams is her biggest dream come true.